When people file for divorce, it is usually because they no longer get along with their spouses. They disagree about things or realize they can no longer live together amicably. Sometimes, it seems as though once the decision to file for divorce has been made, it can be difficult to see how you'll ever work together again. With that in mind, is an amicable divorce out of the question for Jacksonville residents?

It doesn't need to be. Many people think of divorce as a contentious and emotionally-draining time. However, divorce can be a time of self-reflection and personal growth. Moreover, there are steps you can take to help minimize the emotional turmoil you face, regardless of how your soon-to-be ex-spouse is working through the divorce process.

First, consider how you contributed to the end of your marriage. Although it is easy to place blame on other people, take responsibility for your actions toward your spouse.

It is also important to stop thinking about your relationship for what it used to be. Allow yourself to grieve the end of your marriage, but also think about the end of your relationship as a transition, not a failure.

Perhaps one of the most important reminders for maintaining inner peace is being committed to your choice. If your ex wants to fight or insult you, don't fight back. Don't return nasty comments with an equally sharp tongue. Remembering that anger is an expression of pain may help you be more sympathetic toward him or her.

Finally, set the stage for the rest of your interactions. If you have kids, your family will not end just because your marriage did. Working through your divorce without being angry and bitter toward your ex can help lay positive groundwork for future interactions.

No one is claiming that divorce is easy. However, when you are intentional about your choices, you can make the process more peaceful -- for you, your kids and your partner.

Source: Huffington Post, "6 Steps to a Peaceful Divorce," Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW, Jan. 25, 2012